As a parent it’s only common sense to be protective over your child and when your son or daughter becomes a teen, this can prove to be more difficult. While parents want to keep their teen from getting hurt, heartbreak is one form of pain that you can’t prevent no matter what you do. However, there are positive ways you can help your teen with getting over their first heartbreak.
Listen Before Reacting
No one likes to see their son or daughter upset but it doesn’t help if the first thing you do is get upset and react to the situation. The best thing you can do for your teen is to listen to them explain what happened and why. Sometimes just having someone to vent to is more helpful than just listening to what you have to say.
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No Trash Talk!
Easier said than done but saying negative things about your teen’s now-ex isn’t always a good method to helping them get over the hurt. Instead of talking trash simply reassure your teen that it is the ex’s loss and that they deserve better. And call off the dogs: be sure to control the actions of the over protective father or big brothers.
Let Emotions Take Their Course
Maybe your teen is a crier. Maybe he/she prefers to be left alone to wallow in their pain. Perhaps he/she has to listen to tons of sad love songs or write in a journal. However your teen decides to express the loss, let them. Don’t be quick to try to cheer them up or tell them that everything is going to be okay. In a teen’s mind, losing someone they care about is equal to the world falling apart. They may not see the bright side now, but they will eventually. Allow them the freedom to express themselves. Just make sure to keep a close eye in case you feel your teen may take their despair too far or the depression phase lasts too long.
Help Them Get Back to Normal
After your teen has had some time to digest the situation, gradually engage them in activities to keep them occupied in a positive way. Take your teen to the movies, out to lunch or dinner, arrange family game night or inspire your teen to have an old fashioned sleepover with friends. These activities will remind them of the things that make them happy and allow them to be surrounded by those that love them.
Share Your Own Story
Unless you’ve led the perfect relationship your whole life, chances are you’ve experienced your own teen heartbreak. It may help to tell your teen about your first love and first heartbreak. Having a teen hear how his/her parents dealt with heartbreak can give them great insight into relationships and can create a bond with you as well. And don’t dress up your story. If the breakup was your fault, say so. Be candid and honest about how you dealt with your heartbreak. If you didn’t handle the situation in the most mature way, tell your teen and then talk about how they can make better choices than you did.
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